Obviously I’m content with what the Supreme Court did today. Obviously there’s more to be done. What’s more intriguing to me at the moment, however, are the reactions from some friends and colleagues — even the ones who support marriage equality.
I had to pull myself away from live updates on the Supreme Court’s actions, while others could barely pay attention. I couldn’t stop thinking about the Supreme Court’s opinion, while others just treated it as just another thing.
I understand that people care more about things that directly affect them. But this was more than gay marriage. This was the nation’s highest court ruling on a huge civil rights issue — akin to other issues of times past. It was history. Right before our eyes. I’ve seen people get more excited — yes, excited — over a deadly car crash or a shooting .
To those who say it’s obvious that this would matter more to me than you and who think gay America is focusing too much and talking too much about this issue today, I ask you to reverse our roles. What would you have been doing today at 10:00 a.m. Eastern if you were currently banned from getting the same benefits as other legally married couples just because you happen to like the same sex? What would you have been doing if you got put in a legal holding pattern with your marriage? What would you have been doing if your significant other died and you weren’t recognized as anything more than a friend? You would have been just as dedicated to hearing what the Supreme Court had to say, telling others and celebrating. You would’ve gotten the chills. And I think — had the roles been reversed — I would’ve still been right there, doing the same thing I was doing today: Hearing the news, spreading it and celebrating. For you. For everyone.
We are far too focused on ourselves in this country. We’re always focused on what affects us — not on what affects the group. This is a huge failure on our part, I think. We could all stand to be more understanding of other perspectives and care more about issues that affect more people — not just the ones that directly affect us.
Today’s decision wasn’t a ‘win’ for gay America, whatever that is. Today’s decision was a win for America. A win for equality for everyone. And everyone should be elated.