I’ve been trying to stay out of this discussion on my blog. Thing is — maybe it’s the lack of yummy waffle fries, but people are getting a little bit crazy.
I disagree with the company’s particularly public stance on a social issue. I hope it turns out to be a bad business move. If a company were saying it doesn’t support interracial marriage, for example, all sorts of people would be mad. I’ve chosen not to allow my money to support this company. I’ve asked my friends to do the same if they feel as compelled as I do. This is a first for me. I tend to think that just because I disagree with a business on a social issue, I can support the business for the specific product it supplies. Chick-Fil-A — by being so public and supporting such hateful groups, though — is different to me.
But we need to be careful. Far too often, we become so frustrated at the other side that we begin to act like them. We show the same level of intolerance that they show. This hurts our cause. If we truly are fighting for equality and equality alone, we will get there without using the same, unattractive tactics the other side uses to stop progress. Whenever I’m having a conversation with someone who disagrees with me, I always try to do a few things. First, I try to operate within the parameters of their argument. In other words, I try to frame my argument based on what they are arguing. Next, I always try to legitimately understand their perspective. If I’m asking them to understand mine, it’s only fair. Finally, I admit that it’s OK to disagree. And if I feel strongly enough about an issue and we can’t agree, it might affect our relationship. I’m willing to accept this. This is life.
I fully agree that Chick-Fil-A has a ridiculously outdated and hateful stance on my right to be equal. I fully agree that the company is supporting policies that demonize a group simply because it — for whatever reason — doesn’t like them. I fully agree that you can’t base the law of the land on a single religious viewpoint. And the thing is — I bet Chick-Fil-A would agree with me on that, too, if someone were trying to pass law in the country based on Islamic law, for example.
But please — when indicting a group for professing its beliefs, watch yourself. Don’t become exactly what you’re fighting against.