I want a world where no one has to “come out.” Unfortunately, we aren’t there yet. So what motivates a person living in a heterocentric world to live openly as homosexual?
It’s what motivates a woman to live as a woman or a redhead to live as a redhead: It’s who they are. Simple. I’m amazed by those who have little or no interaction with gay people, yet claim to “know” that we “choose” to be gay. Why would someone choose to be considered unequal by their own government or to be shunned by their communities or families? They don’t.
Instead, people choose to be honest and live openly. In many cases, they’ve struggled year after year, day after day, to put themselves in a box so that they may not face the unnecessary persecution many gay people still face. But they finally figure out that the struggle and the persecution are ultimately worth it.
Here’s what happens when you come out: The people who stick by you become even closer to you. Sure, you may lose some relationships in the process. But the ones you create or strengthen from finally being honest are far better and far more fulfilling than the ones you lost ever were. Your friends and family know that you’ve trusted them with something that is still hard for some people to handle. And you know that you can trust them almost quite literally with your life. The road to honesty may be a tough one, but the outcome is worth it.